On Friday I want to explore intermittent fasting as I’ve had some inquiries about it. However, I wanted to preface that post with a few thoughts about diet plans. Not so much the “how” but the “why” behind following a certain diet regimen.
Obviously, being in this industry I read a lot about nutrition and diet strategies of how to gain muscle, lose fat and be the best thing since dark chocolate (well, sliced bread is on the no-no list on a lot of these diets).
If you’re like me, a big nerd, you like to read and learn as much as you can. Nutrition, I think, is fascinating and I always love knowing more.
Warning: Kelsey’s opinion coming- There’s a lot of great and useful information out there (depending on the source, but it’s there. Don’t give up hope!) but underneath the cover of information comes this urgent (and dare I say obsessive?) message that if you’re not trying to be super lean/muscular then you’re not good enough, tough enough, disciplined enough… insert your own adjective enough. It’s as if life is all about how you look. 
Even the less science-y articles found in magazines such as Women’s Health (not trying to bash WH) imply that it’s all about being lean and muscular. And reading article after article like this is dangerous.
Let me explain where I’m coming from with this. I battled with anorexia for five long years. My particular weakness was my body image. I was a competitive bodybuilder for four of those years and it was all about maintaining a low body fat, to the point of obsession. It was a destructive and enslaving mentality. It took God working in my life and the support from my family, husband and friends to finally heal my broken mental state.
This mentality though, is not limited to bodybuilders but it’s pervasive among average women and men too; I’ve seen it! The desire for leanness/muscularity becomes the driving force behind training and eating. Eating becomes a means to an end instead of a delightful experience. Training becomes something you do instead something you enjoy.
The fun is sucked out of life and is replaced with an anxious thirst for an idealized (or idolized) body that will never be slated. Being lean and muscular does NOT equate to happiness. Trust me. “Enslaved” may seem extreme to some, but I’ve been there, and it’s real.
I consistently have to check my motives behind my meals and my workouts, mainly due to my history, but I would encourage you to do the same. Are you seeking an “ideal”?
So ask you, why are you eating the way you do? Whether it be paleo, vegan, weight watchers… whatever, are you eating because you enjoy it or because it’s a means to an end?
I’m not in anyway trying to dissuade you from a particular physical goal. Nor do I want to divert you from a particular eating style; if it works for you and you feel good… awesome! I’m totally supportive of healthy, balanced lifestyles. I guess this post is more of a warning not to let yourself be swayed or convinced that being lean and muscular is what life is all about like I was. It’s also a promise to write posts that DON’T focus on weight loss or body fat levels but posts that are about training and eating for the pure joy of doing so. To write posts that promote balance and not obsession.
I eat because I love to eat (and that whole sustaining life thing). I learn about exercise and I train because I love to train.
I hope you do too.







First off I read your stuff pretty regular. I work in athletics and I eat following the weight watchers plans. Why? Because it helps me portion control… if I didn’t I would be 400lbs I have learned what a 6oz chicken breast looks like, what a cup of pasta looks like. In the end it helped me learn what I need/don’t need in the matter of quantity as well as quality. It tells me “hey one cupcake is fine but you really don’t need 4″ So bravo to you Kelsey for this one… I enjoyed it and absolutely agree with it, that you need to understand the why’s of whatever “lifestyle diet plan” you choose. VTSTRENGTH!
Thank you Megan! I’m humbled that you read this blog! Thank you for sharing as well; I’m glad that you’ve got a system to stay healthy. That’s the most important part; are you healthy and are you happy? VTSTRENGTH!!
What if it is simple curiosity or self-exploration of seeing how best one can be? How about I just want to see if I can get to 18% bf, if I can pull, push, squat, bench my bodyweight. What if I want the challenge of not losing weight, but gaining muscle and losing fat. Or it may be as trivial/vain as looking good in a bikini (something I’ve never worn in my 37 years on earth). Is that wrong, even if the reason is vanity, when the reason comes from within? If it is just “I want to see if I can do it” for myself?
To your point, doing what works for you that is balanced and sustainable is key and all that will matter. The tough (or exciting) part is finding out what does work for you in particular, the trial and error and not putting a stopwatch on it. There are so many ways to do one thing. There is so much dissent. Even with intermittent fasting, there is this 16/8 vs 20 hours vs carb-backloading. Good grief! It’s so confusing and can be disheartening. But I know what I want to do (improve with time) and I have to try to filter through the chaos to find the simple thing that works for me that I can live with.
Great post Kelsey! Thanks for sharing your own struggles and being a testimony for us all. Keep’em coming.
Thank you Krishna! I’m all for testing your limits and seeing what you can do. But there’s the fine line between testing and obsessing. That’s more what I was cautioning people against. If I can help spare someone the hell I went through then the post did it’s job.
And YOU keep at it! You’re always bustin’ your butt in here and we love it!
I’ve been trying to write a post similar to this for the last week. I even have a draft written. I’m not happy with it and keep struggling to put to words what you’ve said so eloquently. In a nutshell, thank you. I agree. I see nothing wrong with working hard for a strong physique, just know the boundaries when strong becomes unhealthy…
Also, for the reasons you stated, I don’t think I’ll ever bring myself to compete again. It was cool. I got some nice jewelry stands (it’s what I use my trophies for). At the end of the day, though, I felt terrible during it and was miserable to be around. I didn’t even notice how skewed my perspective had become until muchMUCH later. I spent far too long comparing myself to that unhealthy vision as I regained to a realistic weight.
Now that I’m focusing on my performance in the gym more than ever, along with not weighing my food and I threw away my body scale… I’m finally feeling better, almost great, about myself. Okay, now I’m rambling. Great post, girl.
Thanks Juliet! Yes, I’ve found the same thing. It’s so much BETTER to be having fun in the gym and NOT thinking about competing or how my body looks anymore. Ideal, I mean idol, bodies just kill the fun and gusto of a great workout and delicious meal.
So, I know you asked for a guest post, would you be interested in swapping guest posts one day?
ABSOLUTELY! That would be a blast! Any topic in mind? I’m game for anything on either half
How about a “My favorite exercise” I’m sure we have different ones and it might help out readers?
Perhaps 3-4 exercises?
Great post, and I also enjoyed reading the comments following. You touched a subject that is a continual haunt for women. Being healthy is what it is about. Might I add for women to consult a doctor now and then to determine what would be a healthy weight for themselves, and let that help guide their efforts of eating and exercise, instead of the image they think is best looking in the mirror.
It’s funny how with all the noise of articles and studies that bombard women, that Billy so rightfully implies, that the best filter is to just remember the bottom line is simply eating right and getting exercise. Everything good in life is in moderation and balance.
And I think feeling the strength gained after a good workout is the sweetest feeling of all.
Hats off to you, Kelsey, and your smart blog followers.
Thanks Mom!